There I said it. Parenting really is hard. It isn't something that comes as a surprise to anyone, but it deserves to be said and acknowledged every now and then.
Lately I have started to wonder if I am doing a good job at all in raising our little ones, and combined with some other preschooler challenges and having a newborn, it really has started to upset me. My son’s teacher told me once that he was “spirited”, which is code for; really stubborn and strong willed. These are all things I will appreciate when he wants to accomplish something in life, but not things I love when I need him to get dressed and out the door by 9 a.m. Add to that a new baby and all of the demands that come with them, and getting through the day can be tough. I often find myself looking at the clock at 5 p.m. counting down until everyone’s bedtime (including my own).
As many times as you might read a book on parenting, or read one of the million blogs on styles and what works, at the end of the day it all comes down to just trying to do what is best. Most of us don’t have degrees on how to do it, and certainly haven’t studied it like we did our math homework in school. It is a huge change in life, acknowledging the challenge that it is and the work that comes with it, makes it easier than just thinking it should all just be natural.
Here are a few tips to help get you through:
Through all the struggles we have as moms, hoping we are doing the right things, worried we are failing, we are all connected. We all want to do what is best for our kids. Parenting is HARD, and truthfully none of us know what is right. But, in the end, we are raising awesome little people, who will hopefully meet all of their potential, without any permanent damage caused by their parents.
So take some time to meet other moms, share your stories and struggles and just breathe. We will get through this.